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As I walked around the local art museum, a painting depicting Ancient Egyptian funeral rites caught my attention. A man with the head of a jackal, the god Anubis, held a human heart before a scale during the Judgment of Osiris. I later learned from reading the museum label that they believed the heart was the most important part of a person. They saw it as central to a person's character and as the seat of emotions, thoughts, and memory.
Although the Ancient Egyptians had unbiblical beliefs about the afterlife, they recognized something important: the heart is central to who we are. The Bible likewise places great importance on the heart, but it uses the term differently.
When Scripture speaks of the "heart," it does not primarily refer to the literal, blood-pumping organ. Rather, it refers to the inner person—the seat of our thoughts, desires, affections, will, and character (Proverbs 4:23–27). What happens inside of us flows out in our behavior. To understand why many are caught in the snare of addictive behavior, we must first examine the heart behind it.
We hear many people describe themselves as pornography addicts. When asked what makes them an addict, they often point to compulsive behaviors that make them feel as though they cannot stop, even when they want to. This sense of being unable to control their behavior has often led to damaged relationships, decreased performance, and other consequences.
"Pornography addiction" is commonly used to describe someone who feels unable to stop using pornography. However, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR) does not recognize pornography addiction as a behavioral addiction or classify it under its non-substance-related disorders. The terminology remains debated, but persistent pornography use is widely recognized as a problem, with an increasing number of people seeking help for it.
While pornography addiction is not currently an established diagnosis due to a lack of sufficient research-based evidence, professionals in the field provide this caveat: “any activity or habit that becomes all-consuming and negatively impacts your daily functioning can cause significant mental, social, and physical health issues, as well as financial issues in some cases.” They name pornography alongside gambling, eating, shopping, and video gaming as potentially addictive activities.
What the world may label pornography addiction, the Bible helps us understand as the heart's enslavement to sinful desires and its worship of something other than God.
The American Society of Addiction Medicine views addiction as a “chronic brain disorder.” This definition emphasizes changes in the brain as a significant component of addiction rather than attributing addictive behavior simply to a lack of willpower or bad decisions. People who embrace this view believe that once they are an addict, they will always be an addict.
Our main concern shouldn’t be behavioral change alone, but getting to the root of our actions.
Instead of pointing to the brain as the main source of addiction, the Bible points to the heart. When we try to blame addiction on physiology, we fail to account for the spiritual aspect of man. If we think it is only a physiological problem, we will believe it can be remedied only by medical interventions. But that doesn’t reflect biblical teaching that man has a body and a soul (Genesis 2:7).
We have to recognize that our sinful behavior proceeds from our hearts (Mark 7:20–23). Our circumstances can influence us, and external factors can make temptation easier or harder to resist, but our hearts remain actively involved in our choices. We can always trace our actions back to a motive in our hearts.
As humans, we are limited to what we can see on the outside, but God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). He sees the “why” behind our behavior. Our main concern shouldn’t be behavioral change alone, but getting to the root of our actions. If you dig deeper, you will find misplaced worship at the core of your pornography addiction.
We often associate worship with singing at church on Sundays, but it means more than that. It involves what we love, what we value, what we trust, and where we turn for satisfaction. John Calvin described worship as seeking all things in God alone and turning to Him for every need.
Our hearts were created for worship, and they constantly pursue something. As Calvin also once said, “The human heart is a perpetual idol factory.” When we do not find our ultimate satisfaction in God, we will seek it somewhere else. Romans 1:25 describes this exchange: people "exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator."
In times when you're looking for comfort, you turn to pornography instead of turning to God. You seek pleasure from sexual fantasies when you should be finding pleasure in Him. Instead of trusting Him with your circumstances, you attempt to escape reality and indulge in pornography.
This is why pornography is ultimately a worship problem. Our choice to turn to it reveals that our hearts are seeking satisfaction from something other than God. When we choose to satisfy our sinful desires, we can become increasingly controlled by them. As 2 Peter 2:19 says, "for by what a man is overcome, by this he is enslaved." What begins as a pursuit of pleasure can become a form of slavery.
The key to quitting pornography is not more willpower or healthier habits; it’s practicing the right kind of worship from the heart. Our hearts worship 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. But since our hearts are deceitful and desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9), God is not always the object of our worship. We turn to idols, or anything that becomes more important to us than God (Exodus 20:4–5).
We have different reasons for turning to pornography, but they are all driven by idolatry. Our hearts can be motivated by our desire for comfort, pleasure, escape, control, relief, approval, and so on. We cling to pornography because we see it as an instrument to fulfill those desires.
The heart that once turned to pornography must learn to turn to Christ for every need.
Pornography promises satisfaction, but it will leave you empty. The heart that once turned to pornography must learn to turn to Christ for every need. If you are seeking comfort, run to Christ instead of accessing a pornographic website. When your heart longs for pleasure, remember that true and lasting joy is found in Him. When you feel overwhelmed and want to escape, bring your burdens to Him. If you are seeking control, surrender yourself to the One who is sovereign over your circumstances.
If we believe that pornography addiction is a physical problem, then we will grow hopeless and stuck. But if we believe that it is a heart problem, we can find hope and lasting freedom through Jesus Christ.
In our efforts to quit pornography, we must work to not make provision for our flesh (Romans 13:14). We can set up external safeguards such as removing pornographic apps, installing accountability software such as Accountable2You, and setting boundaries to make it difficult to access pornography. We can also work on removing ungodly habits such as idleness or laziness that open the door to unwise use of time.
But external safeguards and behavior modification cannot change what the heart loves. A person may remove every source of pornography from their devices and still treasure the heart desires that pornography once satisfied. If those desires remain unaddressed, they may eventually express themselves in another form of sexual immorality, lust, or self-indulgence.
We need God to give us a new heart (Ezekiel 36:26). We cannot manufacture one that loves God more than sin. For those who belong to Christ, God has given us this new heart and has rescued us from slavery to sin. We are no longer helpless slaves to former desires because Christ has set us free. We are now slaves to righteousness (Romans 6:18).
But our battle with sinful desires doesn’t end when we become Christians. We will still be tempted to return to the things we once worshiped. But we now have the power to say no through the Holy Spirit indwelling us (Ephesians 4:30). As believers, we must live a lifestyle of repentance by continually turning from our idols and setting our hearts on Christ (Ephesians 4:22–24). When temptation comes, ask yourself: What am I seeking from pornography that I should be seeking from Christ?
The Ancient Egyptians believed that after death, the gods would take a person's heart and weigh it against the feather of Maat, the goddess of truth and justice. They believed the heart's weight would determine a person's destiny in the afterlife.
God doesn’t wait until our death to weigh our hearts. He sees what is in our hearts at every moment (Proverbs 21:2). We have to be willing to have our hearts examined by the One who knows it well (Psalm 139:23–24; Jeremiah 17:10). When He looks at your heart right now, does He see pure worship to Him alone? We can worship Him by presenting our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God (Romans 12:1).
Through Christ’s work on the cross, our hope is not found in having a heart good enough to pass the scales. God has given us a new heart that enables us to love Him more each day. When you are tempted to return to what once enslaved you, ask yourself the deeper questions: What is my heart worshiping? How can I treasure Christ more?
Stephanie Colinco is the Educational Content Manager at Accountable2You. She holds degrees in biblical counseling (MABC, TMU; DEdMin, SBTS) and loves using her training to serve women both globally and at her local church, Grace and Truth Church Cincinnati.